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    Has everyone lost their minds?

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    Forgive me for posting this but I think my mother and boyfriend have lost their minds. Recently my mother, who has always been so "If it's your dream to be a doctor don't let anything stand in your way", has been hinting around at me not going to AUC and staying here with my boyfrined (who she adores). Also recently my boyfriend has confessed that he has been pulling away from me emotionally (I have noticed), so he won't get hurt when I leave. If anyone has experienced anything similiar to this, please please could you offer some advice? It is my dream to become a doctor, but it would be nice to have a support system. Thank you so much.

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    the same people that don't want you to leave, will be hitting you up for free medical advice in a few years.

    also, your mother will introduce you to everybody under the sun as " here is my daughter...THE DOCTOR"

    most people at some time experience some negativity before they left. I think that's normal.

    What was most comforting to me once I started AUC was that about half the students in my class were children of physicians. I figured that if it was good enough for those doctor's kids, it was OK for me.

    anyway, if it is our dream to become a physician, then do it. those folks will be bragging about you in a few years.
    dump the boyfriend, though. Have an island fling with another student. it makes it easier to get through 20 months there ( I know from personal experience )

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    RNgirl : while my own family has been nothing but supportive of me following my passion down here, my fiancee's family has been less than thrilled. I actually got my acceptance letter the same day that I proposed to my fiancee. She had also found out that she was awarded 2 different free rides to master's programs. We told them... "hey we got engaged and, oh yeah, we're moving to St. Maarten". The looks on their faces were less expected. Then they spent the next 4 months before we left trying to convince her to stay home, calling her on the phone... EVERY SINGLE DAY, begging her not to go!!! Towards the end, mine starting saying they didn't want me to go too. But, they understand once you leave.

    Point is, all will work out. They are all fine once you get here. If it is what you were meant to do, explain it to them again and again. If they still don't support you...

    You'll do what's in you.

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    Well Girl, nobody can tell you what to do with your life. I can, however, share my experience with you and I think it might help. I'm currently in my last semester so I've dealt with pretty much anything the island can fling at you by now. When I went to leave for AUC I had many months of issues with my at the time girlfriend of 2 years. It was very diffucult to leave her and not possible for her to come with me. My parents were happy I was going to live my dream buy sad that I was going to be away for so long. I left and came down here anyway. It was hard at first being away, but there were so many other people here going through the same thing it made it a lot easier. My parents got used to me being away in no time. After a month or two of being away my girlfriend and I started to get used to it. I see her on the breaks and she comes to visit when we can. It really isn't too bad and if you are meant to be together it will work out just fine. We just got engaged two months ago while she was down here visiting...so I guess you can say it worked out great. It is normal for your significant other to have issues and be sad of your leaving. It would be pretty pooh poohty if they weren't sad and upset. However, if you have a strong relationship it won't be a problem at all. So that's my experience and advice for you. Sorry you have to go through it, but it part of the deal. Medical school causes you to be selfish sometimes, but the people in your life that truly care about you will be understanding and, eventually, all will be right with the world.
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    The First Law of Dating is this:

    As soon as you give up a dream for a boyfriend they break up with you.

    So, if you don't be a doctor just cause of your boyfriend, he will inevitably screw up and you will break up the day after you were supposed to start classes.

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    Most people out there have lost their minds. If your boyfriend is worth keeping, he'll wait around for you. It really isn't that long. Follow your dreams. Don't set yourself up for a lifetime of regret by not taking the opportunity that is laid out before you. G
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    dear rn 1

    my daughter is going to school (AUC) in the fall, and i will miss her very much she went to undergrad and grad school in chicago and we were pretty used to having her around - but i am so happy for her that she has a chance to realize her dream of medical school.
    So, please do not listen to the negatives around you, you can't have anyone squash your dream,(especially your boyfriend) . All i see is for you is what a wonderful opportunity for you and what life experiences you will have by living in another country.

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    Quote Originally Posted by aychamo
    The First Law of Dating is this:

    As soon as you give up a dream for a boyfriend they break up with you.

    So, if you don't be a doctor just cause of your boyfriend, he will inevitably screw up and you will break up the day after you were supposed to start classes.
    I concur
    I just hate stupid people. They should have to wear signs that say I'm stupid. That way, you wouldn't rely on them would you. You wouldn't ask them anything. It'd be like, "excuse me...oops, nevermind, I didn't see your sign."

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    As I haven't even applied to AUC yet (still waiting for mcat scores), I can't tell you from personal experience...but i can hopefully still help a little.

    I don't want to repeat everything that'a already been said, but don't let anyone stand in the way of what you want to do. Keep in mind that this is the rest of your life, not a decision to take lightly. I'm a guy, so I can tell you that none of us (guys) are important enough to give up being a doctor for!! My family is not thrilled with AUC being near or at the top of my list for med school, but they'll support me because they know how important it is to me. Try to put things in perspective...going to AUC is no different than going to any US school not in the area...doesn't matter if you're in the caribbean or in california, if you're from Maryland, you won't be close. Even for the people in US med schools, there are only a lucky few who can say they really had the choice of anywhere they wanted to go. Most go where they get accepted (that's what I'll be doing). Decide how you want to live the rest of your life. Things that are supposed to work out have a way of doing so.

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    Thank You Thank You Thank You!!! You guys are wonderful. You're right, my mom will understand and if the boy is worth keeping, he will stick around, afterall it's only 20 months. I will not give up my dream for a boy, that's about the stupidist thing a girl can do. Thanks again, and I'll see you all in August.

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