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[flame]

never mind.

[MDXRS22]

never mind.

Thanks for wasting my time;):)
By the way, never mind, too:)

[Flounder]

Thanks for wasting my time;):)
By the way, never mind, too:)
ditto double ditto

[GonnaBaMD7]

ditto double ditto

LOL. I think if Steph or Nim don't close this one off soon it has the potential of being the next Who thread.

[Flounder]

LOL. I think if Steph or Nim don't close this one off soon it has the potential of being the next Who thread.
and what is wrong with that... the more Who? the better

[flame]

here is my dilemma. my significant other always complain about me not buying him/her gifts. saying i love you is worthless to this person. "actions not words". the thing is i am always sad because this person makes me feel worthless because i cannot afford the expensive gifts he/she can. i love this person but i cannot take anymore complaining about me.


what should i do?

[jaywalk81]

wow a toughie. sorry man...im having problems with my relationship life as well...cant help u much.
maybe posting this in the relaxing lounger will be better...

[DrakeMatthew]

here is my dilemma. my significant other always complain about me not buying him/her gifts. saying i love you is worthless to this person. "actions not words". the thing is i am always sad because this person makes me feel worthless because i cannot afford the expensive gifts he/she can. i love this person but i cannot take anymore complaining about me.


what should i do?

In my opinion, that's a sign that your SO is only into money. That is not what a relationship should be. If he/she cannot understand that how will he/she handle it when you're in med school with a ton of debt? Doesn't look good. Just an honest opinion.

[MDXRS22]

here is my dilemma. my significant other always complain about me not buying him/her gifts. saying i love you is worthless to this person. "actions not words". the thing is i am always sad because this person makes me feel worthless because i cannot afford the expensive gifts he/she can. i love this person but i cannot take anymore complaining about me.


what should i do?

You see???
While mine is complaining about too many gifts and less time spent together because I am always at work....she complains about the gifts that she receives as a waste of money that could have been saved. That's the problem! At this time, I am at work while she is invited to her sister's BD party. Imagine the rest!!!

We all have our own basket of misery :(

[DrakeMatthew]

You see???
While mine is complaining about too many gifts and less time spent together because I am always at work....she complains about the gifts that she receives as a waste of money that could have been saved. That's the problem! At this time, I am at work while she is invited to her sister's BD party. Imagine the rest!!!

We all have our own basket of misery :(

You guys need to switch. J/K.

[Jane0899]

here is my dilemma. my significant other always complain about me not buying him/her gifts. saying i love you is worthless to this person. "actions not words". the thing is i am always sad because this person makes me feel worthless because i cannot afford the expensive gifts he/she can. i love this person but i cannot take anymore complaining about me.


what should i do?
Well, maybe you could take this person out to do stuff that doesn't require much $, like, a picnic in the park/the beach, walk around in scenic places.... you'd be spending time with this person and being thoughtful. They are "actions." If it's really about $, then can't help you. That's tough.

[Flounder]

here is my dilemma. my significant other always complain about me not buying him/her gifts. saying i love you is worthless to this person. "actions not words". the thing is i am always sad because this person makes me feel worthless because i cannot afford the expensive gifts he/she can. i love this person but i cannot take anymore complaining about me.


what should i do?
Here is my take... I don't want to be with someone who complains that I don't buy them gifts because it seems to me like they are just in it to get gifts. If I go out with someone and they start complaining that I don't buy them as many gifts as they would like I'll drop them because I'm not one who likes people to tell them that I should buy them more stuff. A gift is what it is a gift. And yes actions do speak louder than words but it does not mean it has to be in a wrapped form with a bow.

If I were in your shoes I would drop them because if they love you they shouldn't want/expect gifts, they should value your company for its self and if they can't do that and need to be bribed (which it is sounding like to me) to be with you then (in my case) give them a size 9 to their **** and tell them not to let the door hit them on the way out

[BTH]

Salutations:

I vote to just get rid of that person. People like that will never be satisfied with what they have. You buy them a gift now, they may be happy with it for a while, and then they'll want more in the future. Buying someone a gift is not a problem but what is a problem is when you're in a relationship and the other person is actually requesting you get them gifts (and expensive ones at that). Love should be more than about the material value. Ciao.

[flame]

this person buys $150 shirt, ten at a time. hmm. i can afford $10 shirt, one at a time. how do i make this person understand that i do love him/her, i just cannot afford it. i bought him/her little things, but this person was not too thrilled, i think he/she even called me cheap.

the thing is, this person is nice and always there for me. this person says "i understand your situation". what situation? everytime i hear that it makes me nuts. i feel like i am below this person. oh you poor little thing! its not my fault i dont have that much money.

i would take him/her to the park or beach on a picnic, but you see this person is always busy. if i were to mention the beach, a look of dislike would surface on his/her face. well i cannot stomach that look anymore so we just do things this person likes.

although i might try the picnic idea one more time maybe he/she will likes it now.

should i sit this person down and talk to them?

[wai2w3c]

flame: you gotta ditch that person. if you marry her (or him, i'm assuming it's a girl though) she's just gonna suck you dry....not good for a family.

i have the opposite problem. my bf wont stop buying me stuff. stuff i dont want or need. and i keep telling him we need to save for our future (or my tuition)...

but you really gotta talk to your partner about money cuz thats where a lot of strife comes from. if you're the man in the relationship. put ur foot down. or get another one when u're a Dr. if u're the girl, then that's just messed up that he's doing that to u. looking down on u just because you're not rich.... that's not worth all the 'nice' things he/she says... pity is not love.

[Stewie]

this person buys $150 shirt, ten at a time. hmm. i can afford $10 shirt, one at a time. how do i make this person understand that i do love him/her, i just cannot afford it. i bought him/her little things, but this person was not too thrilled, i think he/she even called me cheap.

the thing is, this person is nice and always there for me. this person says "i understand your situation". what situation? everytime i hear that it makes me nuts. i feel like i am below this person. oh you poor little thing! its not my fault i dont have that much money.

i would take him/her to the park or beach on a picnic, but you see this person is always busy. if i were to mention the beach, a look of dislike would surface on his/her face. well i cannot stomach that look anymore so we just do things this person likes.

although i might try the picnic idea one more time maybe he/she will likes it now.

should i sit this person down and talk to them?

Stay in this relationship ONLY if the sex is good

[Flounder]

Stay in this relationship ONLY if the sex is good
spoken like a true horn dog.... sigh sex isn't all there is in a relationship and at this point it sounds to me like... well let me not say

[Groove]

this person buys $150 shirt, ten at a time. hmm. i can afford $10 shirt, one at a time. how do i make this person understand that i do love him/her, i just cannot afford it. i bought him/her little things, but this person was not too thrilled, i think he/she even called me cheap.

the thing is, this person is nice and always there for me. this person says "i understand your situation". what situation? everytime i hear that it makes me nuts. i feel like i am below this person. oh you poor little thing! its not my fault i dont have that much money.

i would take him/her to the park or beach on a picnic, but you see this person is always busy. if i were to mention the beach, a look of dislike would surface on his/her face. well i cannot stomach that look anymore so we just do things this person likes.

although i might try the picnic idea one more time maybe he/she will likes it now.

should i sit this person down and talk to them?

Dump them.

Oh, and swipe a few of those $150 t-shirts while you're at it. They'll never miss it.

[algen]

:) Hilarious Groove, yeah I agree with that though.

Well why are you stayin with this person, I mean, are you plannin to marry them. And do you want to have to keep goin thru your paycheck just to do everything to please them. Dont stay there just because you guys have been together for a long time, and things have just gotten really comfy. Cause you might just be missing out on something real, and not just about material things.