Anyone else like this at all?

[Jezzielin]

I got accepted last month for the September 2006 class! I am so excited but have one small yet giant concern...

Is anyone a little afraid of going? I keep thinking about how I am going to be a doctor and I get so happy but then I think of the distance and the family, friends, and long long term boyfriend I am leaving behind and I get scared!

How can I get over this? I know just looking into the future I should know that it will be worthwhile because I will be gone less than two years, but can anyone else relate to this? :confused:

[stolen dream]

Jezzielin,
You will be ok.

[singer]

I got accepted last month for the September 2006 class! I am so excited but have one small yet giant concern...

Is anyone a little afraid of going? I keep thinking about how I am going to be a doctor and I get so happy but then I think of the distance and the family, friends, and long long term boyfriend I am leaving behind and I get scared!

How can I get over this? I know just looking into the future I should know that it will be worthwhile because I will be gone less than two years, but can anyone else relate to this? :confused:

Most other students survice being away from home. My younger son has a girlfreind who goes to school half way across the country. They see each other a few times a year and the relationship is strong. You will be coming home 3 times a year for the first two years in between semesters. If the relationship is meant to last it will. If not then you will find someone else. You must set your priorities.

Good luck

[McGillGrad]

Just keep in mind that your you will probably break up with your boyfriend because statistically, either you or he will wander and find comfort in someone else's arms. Other than that, you should be fine.

[axj00]

Just keep in mind that your you will probably break up with your boyfriend because statistically, either you or he will wander and find comfort in someone else's arms. Other than that, you should be fine.

Come on McGill! There's no need to say that man.

Jezzielin - 16 months will fly by and by the time you know you'll be back in the states. Don't worry about what others say.

[Jezzielin]

Come on McGill! There's no need to say that man.

Jezzielin - 16 months will fly by and by the time you know you'll be back in the states. Don't worry about what others say.

Thanks. Nah, I am really not worried about the relationship at all. It is mostly the distance. Not really trying to sound 'bummish' but is there a place to go if you tend to get homesick? Like someone to talk to? I even went to my state school and felt lonely sometimes lol.

It'd be nice to have someone to talk to on the rock without annoying my classmates!:cool:

[Bad_Dobby]

...Is anyone a little afraid of going?... Dobby is always afraid of going, Dobby is afraid of the insects, other students and getting his brain saturated with medical knowledge. Dobby afraid his girlfriend will find another lover and Dobby will fail tests and get this training wand taken away.

[McGillGrad]

Come on McGill! There's no need to say that man.

Jezzielin - 16 months will fly by and by the time you know you'll be back in the states. Don't worry about what others say.

The worst thing to do is to be naive and pretend as if you will be safe when leaving your boyfriend/girlfriend and then having you world crumble around you in medical school. Relationship issues will mess with your mind when you should be focusing 100% of studies. That is a recipe for disaster.

[VPDcurt]

The worst thing to do is to be naive and pretend as if you will be safe when leaving your boyfriend/girlfriend and then having you world crumble around you in medical school. Relationship issues will mess with your mind when you should be focusing 100% of studies. That is a recipe for disaster.

I agree with this completely. Combined with the well-known fact that 99% of women are whores and 99% of men are dirtbags, someone is bound to cheat or otherwise "find comfort in someone else's arms."

[Bad_Dobby]

....known fact that 99% of women are whores and 99% of men are dirtbags... VPDcurt - you bad wizard you - making bad generalized statements - you watch too much TV yes you do. Dobby say have safe sex and use a condom too!!! Dobby thinks a good wizard social biologist told him it was more like 55% mess around and the other 44% wishes they could.

[sukhtinder]

just leave the island a lot to keep your sanity, the place is a dump, making it good for studying.

make sure to get out to guadalupe, martinique, and saint martin for filet mignon, champagne and foi gras. have your boyfried meet you in saint martin, as there are direct flights there from home. i think there maybe a few by air france to martinique and guadalupe.

16 months will go by really quickly. stay away from the losers who gossip and make everyone elses life miserable..remember, misery loves company. study like crazy, ace yur exams, and go party on a civilized island on your breaks. go home often. youll do great, good luck!

[Jezzielin]

I agree with this completely. Combined with the well-known fact that 99% of women are whores and 99% of men are dirtbags, someone is bound to cheat or otherwise "find comfort in someone else's arms."

Haha, well we have been in a relationship for 4 years and we have been apart for 3 (went to different colleges). I am not trying to naive. We have talked about it and is very supportive of my dream of becomnig a doctor no matter what I need to do. It is possible that he will come out and stay with me for some of my time on the rock.

But again, is there a club or something that people can go to talk? I know there is help for SOs to go, but curious if there is for students as well.

[Jezzielin]

just leave the island a lot to keep your sanity, the place is a dump, making it good for studying.

make sure to get out to guadalupe, martinique, and saint martin for filet mignon, champagne and foi gras. have your boyfried meet you in saint martin, as there are direct flights there from home. i think there maybe a few by air france to martinique and guadalupe.

16 months will go by really quickly. stay away from the losers who gossip and make everyone elses life miserable..remember, misery loves company. study like crazy, ace yur exams, and go party on a civilized island on your breaks. go home often. youll do great, good luck!

Thanks alot for the date idea in St. Martin:D !

[ydobon]

...is there a place to go if you tend to get homesick? Like someone to talk to? I even went to my state school and felt lonely sometimes lol.

It'd be nice to have someone to talk to on the rock without annoying my classmates!:cool:

Annoy your classmates, politely. Just remember, we reciprocate!

;)

Seriously, though. You're not going to be the only one feeling terribly alone. Not only is that normal, it's healthy. It means that you've formed strong bonds, and that's the sign of a healthy personality. Go, learn, be lonely, make friends, enjoy!!!!

[smashweasel]

I also feel nervous about leaving for the island. I will be leaving behind a my wife/best friend and my wonderful kids for 16 mos. It makes my heart ache thinking about them going to bed without daddy kissing them good night. But it would stupid of me to not go and try to make the rest of my dreams come true. I would spend the rest of my life knowing I gave up on myself. Plus, it could be worse. We could be going to Iraq for the same time period.

[Junito]

Haha, well we have been in a relationship for 4 years and we have been apart for 3 (went to different colleges). I am not trying to naive. We have talked about it and is very supportive of my dream of becomnig a doctor no matter what I need to do. It is possible that he will come out and stay with me for some of my time on the rock.

But again, is there a club or something that people can go to talk? I know there is help for SOs to go, but curious if there is for students as well.

There is a Baptist Minister and his wife who come to campus for the Ross Christian Fellowship. They are very nice, and will hear you out.

[brob311]

My wife and kids are coming with me, but I am sure it will feel like they are 1000's of miles away b/c I won't get to see them most of the day. You need to look at the big picture and think of the great rewards you will get from the hard work and sacrifice you will make.

[sarahtarah]

i felt it too.

you have to want it. youll get used to it. some days its harder then others but tough it out. youll have a better everything after

[Junito]

My wife and kids are coming with me, but I am sure it will feel like they are 1000's of miles away b/c I won't get to see them most of the day. You need to look at the big picture and think of the great rewards you will get from the hard work and sacrifice you will make.

Just make sure to take atleast a day or half day off a week. I did and it made a difference (I did not get burnt out). I also took off an hour between study times to spend some quality time with my family.

[miasma]

yeah, i think about how tough it is going to be once i start, but i strongly believe that one must always go into anything with full confidence, and don't look back. i realize that going so far away for med school (i'm from canada) is going to be many times harder than if i went to med school here at home (which i wish i could, but can't obviously). but i also realize that in the end, it's going to be so much sweeter.

[Shah_Patel_PT]

Just keep in mind that your you will probably break up with your boyfriend because statistically, either you or he will wander and find comfort in someone else's arms. Other than that, you should be fine.

I am sorry but I must agree.......knowing the odds!

Original poster may PM me...I'll tell you what I personally did.

[Future2010MD]

I am nervous too....I've never really been away for so long, but I think books should keep me pretty busy...

[Mark99]

I also feel nervous about leaving for the island. I will be leaving behind a my wife/best friend and my wonderful kids for 16 mos. It makes my heart ache thinking about them going to bed without daddy kissing them good night. But it would stupid of me to not go and try to make the rest of my dreams come true. I would spend the rest of my life knowing I gave up on myself. Plus, it could be worse. We could be going to Iraq for the same time period.

Ah, what does Iraq have anything to do with this? At least the original poster won't have to spend 16 motnhs with a bunch of racist rednecks in Texas! :twisted: By the way, there are plenty of HOT *asian* and Indian girls at Ross to keep your mind OFF your wife and kids.

[heifetz]

Ah, what does Iraq have anything to do with this? At least the original poster won't have to spend 16 motnhs with a bunch of racist rednecks in Texas! :twisted: By the way, there are plenty of HOT *asian* and Indian girls at Ross to keep your mind OFF your wife and kids.

Let's not get carried away now. Hot is not exactly the first word that comes to mind when I think of ross women.

[VPDcurt]

Ah, what does Iraq have anything to do with this? At least the original poster won't have to spend 16 motnhs with a bunch of racist rednecks in Texas! :twisted: By the way, there are plenty of HOT *asian* and Indian girls at Ross to keep your mind OFF your wife and kids.

Any hot ones that aren't asian or indian? Neither of those carnations float my boat if you know what i mean.

[queenofspades11]

listen sweetheart, im in the same boat as you, i will be leaving my boyfriend at home for the time while im on the island. He will visit me but i realize it will be difficult being apart. But i believe it can work, statistics are statistics but if you two are meant to be it will happen. Believe it.

[sukhtinder]

oh lord what sthe big deal even if u do mess around a little, everything will go back to normal after 16 months, what happens in dominica stays in dominica.

[Jezzielin]

oh lord what sthe big deal even if u do mess around a little, everything will go back to normal after 16 months, what happens in dominica stays in dominica.

Hahaha, even though I do not believe in this idea "what happens on the rock stays on the rock" makes me laugh!:rolleyes:

[Theodora123]

OMG !:shock: I compared our time on the island to Iraq, too. I said to myself, there are kids who are younger than me that are serving our country in Iraq, so I should stop being a baby and be happy that I get to go home after 16 months...But, sometimes I do get a little nervous about being away from home for such a long time in a foreign place. I didn't even dorm, I was a commuter so I know I will be feeling the shock. At least we will all have each other :D Plus, it could be worse. We could be going to Iraq for the same time period.

[lilac8797]

I know this entire experience is going to be scary but don't look at stats or listen to negativity, it will ruin you.

Let me tell you a story about stats:
in 1994 my 6-year-old daughter was dx'd with Acute Lymphoblastic Leukemia (ALL), the most common form of childhood cancer. The physicians were very hopeful and said that the treatment for ALL has come a long way and her chances of survival were close to 90%. So for the next two & 1/2 years she underwent the treatment. When it was over we celebrated and happiness came back to our lives. It was short lived because just 4 days after her last treatment the cancer returned. She went through more treatment then was scheduled for a Bone Marrow Transplant (BMT). Her Human Leukocyte Antigen (HLA) match was 5 of 6 decent enough given about a 75% chance. She began the protocol for the BMT and the cancer again returned. Three weeks later I buried my 9-year-old daughter. During that time we meet numerous children who were given dismal odd...one family was given a less than 10% chance of survival...guess what...next weekend she's getting married and I'm proud to be invited. So stats mean nothing.
Additionally, when parents lose a child the divorce rate is over 75%. I'm proud to say that my husband and I have been married for 19 years and going strong. So even though 9 years ago we lost our daughter and we could have easily given up and just been a stat, we fought to stay together.
Moral of the story: anything worth having is worth fighting for. Marriage/ relationships and this medical education we're all craving isn't going to be easy, but if we really want it, we'll fight everyday to make it work.
Side note: the other person has to work for it just as much, so if your S.O. isn't putting in the effort than you have your answer about what to do.
Good luck.

[BelleStarr]

Let me add my 2cents in here. I agree, its up to you not the stats in just about everything you will go through going to Ross - From your grades, to your step score, to being able to maintain a long distance relationship. To me the "stats" people put out are no better than going to a psychic that tells you doom is ahead and you believe it. If doom is in your mind and heart you will make doom happen. It may be that not everyone will be able to handle long distance - but it *CAN* be done. My SO and I are half way through and I can honestly say I feel closer to him rather than farther. Is it easy?? Oh H-E-doublehockeysticks NO! The past year has been awful for me both because he has been away and some things that have happened here that have been life altering. But all the frustration and loneliness disappear every time I watch him come through the doors at the airport during semester breaks. So don't let the "stats" put doom in your heart.

Someone once wrote here (and its something I have hanging on a sticky in my office) "Nothin' to it but to do it! As I keep telling myself: The regret of a missed lifetime opportunity will far outweigh the sorrow of a temporary separation." I would give credit to the person but I can never remember who it was.

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So stats mean nothing.

Moral of the story: anything worth having is worth fighting for. Marriage/ relationships and this medical education we're all craving isn't going to be easy, but if we really want it, we'll fight everyday to make it work.
Side note: the other person has to work for it just as much, so if your S.O. isn't putting in the effort than you have your answer about what to do.
Good luck.

[homerbrave]

I am nervous too....I've never really been away for so long, but I think books should keep me pretty busy...


There are breaks b/w semesters for about 2 weeks when students can go home to visit their families. You're on the island for only 13-14 weeks at a time. So ur not really 'gone' for 16 months.

the clinical years are when students won't get to see their families/friends for several months. I expect this to get much much worst in residency, most notably PGY-1.