Sarah, I envy you so deeply. My girlfriend of 8 years (with the exception of the ring and vows, we might as well be married) just started at AUC this fall, and after only two months things have fallen apart so suddenly. She doesn't want me to come down because she thinks I'll resent her for having put my career on hold, but she also doesn't want to "settle for a partial relationship".

I'm sorry to put a damper on Sarah's happy message. I guess I just needed an outlet to say how scared I am, especially since this caught me totally off-guard (4 days ago, I thought everything was just fine).

And it's over. It took eight years for us to build this relationship, and it took her less than one week to decide she didn't want it any more. She wasn't willing to let *us* work on *our* relationship, but had decided what she wanted, and it wasn't this.

Sarah, I wish you the absolute best of luck. You sound like a tremendously sweet person. I hope your sweetheart is more immune to the changes that medical school seems to have on some people.

Wow...

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I'm so sorry to hear that!! It's hard to believe after 8 years, someone could make a decision that quickly.
If you don't mind me being nosey (you don't know me anyway) why didn't you just get married ater 8 years? Is that why she broke it off? I am probably one of the most impatient people in the world, and I can tell you - if Mr. Islandwife hadn't acted quickly, I'd have thought he was stringing me along with no intent of ever marrying. I also would never move to a foreign country with someone who I wasn't solidly committed to (married to in other words).
Call me old fashioned, but I think women tend to get impatient after that long. I bet she did that just to get your attention.
Women....

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shara
im glad your comming down with your husband. it sounds to me there are a lot of insecurities in your relationship. as u mentioned distractions and things the spouses could be doing behind ur back. Im pretty sure if a spouse had to cheat on you they don't need the distance to do it. Espicially in a field were do many people work hand and hand together. anyway just my observation.

That's actually funny. I wish you knew how funny that is.
Well, you are definitely seeing things that aren't there. When I spoke of those things, I was thinking of other relationships - not mine. If you knew my husband and I, you would see better I guess. We are best friends, and he is the person I trust the MOST in the world. Otherwise I wouldn't have married him.
Thanks for your concern though.

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Hey everyone,

I am new here and will be applying for admission to the August '06 class. I am married and have 3 children that I plan on brining with me. My oldest would be starting kindergarten the same time I start school. I am just wondering about schooling for her, and what type of housing (preferably with cost estimates) we might be able to find. I am one of those people who can't stand to be away from my sweetheart and the kiddos for too long. Thanks in advance.

Dr. Joe

Dr. Joe -

There are a couple of options for schooling your daughter while you are here. There is also housing available that can accomodate families. My hubby is at school right now, and I am at home on the island with my two kids. We homeschool so my son will have a consistent education. That is just my thing. Some parents send their kids to the Caribbean International Academy (CIA), which I have only heard good things about. That school is right next to campus, so it is convenient.
If your wife wants a sponsor to help find housing, a car, schooling, help getting adjusted, and some built-in friends, let me know and I can hook her up with a sponsor. Here is a website/message board she will probably like to have:
http://groups.msn.com/AUCSpousesClub...ubwebpage.msnw

She can join and post with any questions her sponsor doesn't know or questions she may want answered before a sponsor is assigned.

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Hello Sarah - thanks for the advice. Unfortunatley, my husband can't uproot himself right now. He's in residency and has about 2 years left. I am planning to go in Jan or May 06 so I'm not sure yet. We were separated for 9 months last year while I was in school overseas (I"m planning to transfer into AUC). Although it was difficult, I was happiest when I was in school doing what I set out for myself a long time ago. Fortunately, my husband is very supportive and we don't have any children. So we figured.........if I was going to do this, I need to do it now before I have any more responsibilities. Anyhow, I would love to talk to you more. Let me know the best way to get a hold of you. Take care - Kim

Hey, Kim. You can email me at elsarai78@yahoo.com

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