Both of my kids live with me on the island. I had to have meeting after meeting with the Governor's office just to get the permission for my kids to stay. The kids do not have to be homeschooled. They are allowed to attend the schools on the island once the Governor's office gives permission for them to stay (which they told me they will not do for anymore SJ students' families) but they are all taught in Dutch. There are no English speaking schools on the island which is why anyone that brings their kids usually do homeschooling or cyber schooling. Mine do the cyber schooling and it is working out pretty well for them (they are 13 and 14).

If you are not a Dutch citizen or born on Bonaire you are not permitted to work on the island. Your girlfriend and your children would be granted a 90 day stay on the island per year then they would have to leave again.

The Governor's office told me during my whole ordeal to let any incoming students with families know they are not going to allow families to stay. There is a way around it, which is once you come to the island they can't leave until you graduate. But then you take the chance of someone telling immigration and them getting kicked off the island (which they have done before) and they would not be allowed to come back.