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Originally Posted by coolaid
Now the question is who will explain this to multigrain? I aint got the time. :-)
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Hmm... I don't think we are arguing about the same topic. In fact, I totally agree with what you've written. My fondest memories of past relationships also are the thoughtful things that were done for me.
What I am trying to say in my previous post is that if there are problems with sexual intimacy, it can certainly affect relationship quality... that's how I link the two together. So if a couple's average time for sex is only 3-4 minutes, I would think that one partner is regularly unsatisfied with the encounter, and I'm sure that this would affect relationship quality. It's not only about sexual dissatisfaction, but rather the idea that one partner is too selfish, inconsiderate and self-absorbed with his own needs to care about that of his partner... leaving the other partner feeling unloved. THAT would cause resentment and erode relationship quality. I don't know if I'm missing some piece here, but this is my reasoning.
Are we really in disagreement about this? Is it just a matter of wording, or is there a fundamental conceptual difference?